Post by Jay Be on Nov 27, 2015 14:44:04 GMT
Hi there,
I am Jay Be, Portuguese guy that was born in Brazil. I have lived in Australia and now in Switzerland.
My Social Skills were much lower than the avarage you can possibily thing about. First real kiss with around 15 and after that only 3 years later. I would panick before talking to anybody that I didn`t know women or men. Hands shaking, pressure on my head, mental self-sabotage (she is going to say no, they are going to make fun of me, they will think I am stupid and etc.) For years I tryed to pretend I was amazing, lying about things I never really did just to try to fit in any group. You know, as a teenager you are supose to belong to a group, the Sport, the Heavy Metal, the RPG, nerds, Nirvana... I tryed all of them, but no one seemed to accept me in. Girls would tell me that didn't want anything with me before I would even tell them that I had interest on them.
Well this changed as I was 22. I had just broken up with my second girlfriend after more than 4 years of relationship. One day, I remember as if it were yesterday, I was going to the computer room of the university as a beautiful girl passed by and I sent the worse cheap pick up line I could find from the distance trying to impress my friends that were with me. That day changed my life, the guy I was with gave me a feedback:
"Bro, that was just terrible, you just will never get anything from her like that but now you made think that she is better than she really is, making the life of the next guy that try to talk to her even more difficult. You should read a book I read some years ago, it is called The Game by Neil Strauss."
I have ADHD, so I hyper Focused on this book and other for the next months, staying on forums like this one hours a day, just talking about materials and routines that we had never used on real life. Until the day that I met a guy called Vic Stone. Vic was, as me, an average guy with no social Skills, but he was living in the same city as me, so we decided to meet and go training together. Our first meeting was in the biggest mall in my home town. The approach anxiety was so big that our first days on field were all about asking girls for the time.
"Hi, what time is it?" "Hi, what time is it?"
10, 20, 50 times a day. After that we decided to grow on the game:
" - Hi what time is it?
- 15:30
- do you know where the shop X is?
- Just on the corner.
- all right, thank you, I am looking for a present for my cousin, she is more or less your age, could you give me a tip on what to buy?"
OMG, I was having a natural conversation with a girl I had never seen before. After a couple of weeks Vic got his first phone number, for me was a bit more difficult.
Anyways, I started going out with guys that had had the same problems as me, and that were looking for the same answers: How to be more Sociable? Some of my friends at the time are today coaches on the biggest social dynamics institution back home, others just found the love of their lives and are now happy together, some stayed behind a computer... Me? Well I went traveling the world, 1 year in australia, 1 month in Asia, 1 month in Europe. With the things I had learned I made friends and met women all over the world.
And thats what I want to share with you over here, my Idea is to help you to become a better you and let you help me become a better me.
Just enjoy it
Jay Be
I am Jay Be, Portuguese guy that was born in Brazil. I have lived in Australia and now in Switzerland.
My Social Skills were much lower than the avarage you can possibily thing about. First real kiss with around 15 and after that only 3 years later. I would panick before talking to anybody that I didn`t know women or men. Hands shaking, pressure on my head, mental self-sabotage (she is going to say no, they are going to make fun of me, they will think I am stupid and etc.) For years I tryed to pretend I was amazing, lying about things I never really did just to try to fit in any group. You know, as a teenager you are supose to belong to a group, the Sport, the Heavy Metal, the RPG, nerds, Nirvana... I tryed all of them, but no one seemed to accept me in. Girls would tell me that didn't want anything with me before I would even tell them that I had interest on them.
Well this changed as I was 22. I had just broken up with my second girlfriend after more than 4 years of relationship. One day, I remember as if it were yesterday, I was going to the computer room of the university as a beautiful girl passed by and I sent the worse cheap pick up line I could find from the distance trying to impress my friends that were with me. That day changed my life, the guy I was with gave me a feedback:
"Bro, that was just terrible, you just will never get anything from her like that but now you made think that she is better than she really is, making the life of the next guy that try to talk to her even more difficult. You should read a book I read some years ago, it is called The Game by Neil Strauss."
I have ADHD, so I hyper Focused on this book and other for the next months, staying on forums like this one hours a day, just talking about materials and routines that we had never used on real life. Until the day that I met a guy called Vic Stone. Vic was, as me, an average guy with no social Skills, but he was living in the same city as me, so we decided to meet and go training together. Our first meeting was in the biggest mall in my home town. The approach anxiety was so big that our first days on field were all about asking girls for the time.
"Hi, what time is it?" "Hi, what time is it?"
10, 20, 50 times a day. After that we decided to grow on the game:
" - Hi what time is it?
- 15:30
- do you know where the shop X is?
- Just on the corner.
- all right, thank you, I am looking for a present for my cousin, she is more or less your age, could you give me a tip on what to buy?"
OMG, I was having a natural conversation with a girl I had never seen before. After a couple of weeks Vic got his first phone number, for me was a bit more difficult.
Anyways, I started going out with guys that had had the same problems as me, and that were looking for the same answers: How to be more Sociable? Some of my friends at the time are today coaches on the biggest social dynamics institution back home, others just found the love of their lives and are now happy together, some stayed behind a computer... Me? Well I went traveling the world, 1 year in australia, 1 month in Asia, 1 month in Europe. With the things I had learned I made friends and met women all over the world.
And thats what I want to share with you over here, my Idea is to help you to become a better you and let you help me become a better me.
Just enjoy it
Jay Be